When I was a kid we played a game called charades. The object of the game was to simply watch a person act out a certain scene or gesture and then try to guess what it is they were trying to illustrate. It was always a hilarious experience to see someone act out what they weren’t allowed to say. I remember a number of times getting cracked up over the fact that my friends were having such hard time guessing what I was so clearly illustrating! “Acting out” and having everyone guess what you are illustrating is fun in the game of charades, but it is not very much fun when we function that way in our relationships. Sadly, in our marriages we play charades more often than we care to admit.
Charades is a terribly inadequate way of sharing our feelings with our spouse and family. In the end it leaves us feeling misinterpreted, misunderstood, and disappointed.
What is even more difficult about emotional charades is that we are not only tasked with guessing what our spouse is feeling, we are also expected to guess the reason they are feeling that way!
Along with all of this, it is also true that most of us are not really great at even identifying or illustrating our true emotions. For instance, many times we act out and illustrate anger when we are actually feeling something deeper… we illustrate (act out) anger but we are really feeling disappointed or anxious or even overwhelmed.
At Love Ministries we help couples drop the frustrating game of marital charades and pick up new and effective ways of relating and communicating – especially in regard to their feelings and emotions.
Last year we were thrilled to help dozens of couples discover a simple, yet profoundly effective pathway for relating and communicating. Some of the couples we worked with were looking to go from good to great in their relationships, while others turned to us with only a glimmer of hope left that their relationship could survive.
No matter what the status of your relationship is, we are here to help you move forward and discover how you can have great unity, deep intimacy and even realize a vision for who you are as a couple!
We are only a call or a quick away. Here’s the link.
“Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ.”
~ Ephesians 4:15 ~