
The Intimate Connection Conversation Tool
Honest conversations to help you understand one another and grow in emotional, physical and sexual intimacy.
Healthy lovemaking grows through trust, safety, kindness, curiosity and honest conversation. Take turns answering each question slowly and openly.
Choose your conversation:
Before you begin:
The goal is not to criticize, compare, pressure or defend.
Listen to understand your spouse’s experience and discover
how you can love one another well.
Conversation 1
Spouse One answers first
Conversation 1 of 12
Listen with care
Stay curious:
Let both spouses answer before moving forward. Do not rush, correct, debate or dismiss what is shared.
Conversation Complete
Finish by completing these statements:
“One thing I learned about you is…”
“One thing I would like to do in response is…”
“One way I can love you well is…”
