Intimacy grows when couples stay curious. Take turns answering the question below. Listen slowly. Ask follow-up questions. Don’t rush to fix, defend, or compare. Also, don’t just act interested; be interested (curious!)
The Curiosity Encounter
Take turns answering each question. Listen carefully, stay curious, and learn something new about one another.
What would make today feel meaningful to you?
Question 1 of 36
What is something you have been looking forward to lately?
Question 2 of 36
What is one small thing that helps you feel loved?
Question 3 of 36
What is something you wish we did more often together?
Question 4 of 36
What is one of your favorite memories from our relationship?
Question 5 of 36
What is something that has made you laugh recently?
Question 6 of 36
What does a peaceful day look like to you?
Question 7 of 36
What is something you are proud of right now?
Question 8 of 36
What is one quality you appreciate in me?
Question 9 of 36
What is something new you would enjoy trying together?
Question 10 of 36
What is one place you would love for us to visit?
Question 11 of 36
What is something you hope never changes about us?
Question 12 of 36
When do you feel most emotionally connected to me?
Question 13 of 36
What is one thing you wish I understood better about you?
Question 14 of 36
What has been taking up the most space in your thoughts lately?
Question 15 of 36
What is one area where you could use more support from me?
Question 16 of 36
What makes it easier for you to open your heart?
Question 17 of 36
What is something from your childhood that shaped you deeply?
Question 18 of 36
What is one fear you do not talk about very often?
Question 19 of 36
What is something you are still learning about yourself?
Question 20 of 36
What helps you feel respected in our relationship?
Question 21 of 36
What does trust look like to you in everyday life?
Question 22 of 36
What is one difficult season that made us stronger?
Question 23 of 36
What is one conversation you hope we will have more often?
Question 24 of 36
What dream do you still carry for your life?
Question 25 of 36
What do you hope our relationship looks like ten years from now?
Question 26 of 36
What do you believe is one of our greatest strengths as a couple?
Question 27 of 36
What is one area where you want us to grow together?
Question 28 of 36
What do you hope our family is remembered for?
Question 29 of 36
What is one promise from our vows that means more to you now?
Question 30 of 36
What is something you need to forgive, release or heal from?
Question 31 of 36
What is one way I could love you more intentionally?
Question 32 of 36
What is something you want us to protect in this season?
Question 33 of 36
What is one way we could grow spiritually together?
Question 34 of 36
What is one sentence you would love to hear from me more often?
Question 35 of 36
What is something you want me to know about your heart today?
Question 36 of 36
Stay curious: After your spouse answers, try asking
“Tell me more,” “What was that like for you?” or
“Why is that meaningful to you?”
Suggested rhythm: Each spouse answers. Then ask one follow-up question before moving on.